I really need your advice.

 I really need your advice.

So early in our marriage I continued talking (just phone chats) with other women.. never met any of them or plan to meet them, it was purely for fun. Long story short, my wife went through my phone and saw them, she awas mad, I saw what it did to her and it’s effect on our relationship and I promised to put an end to such act, I blocked them all and asked she forgives me, which she said she forgave me.

Fast forward a few months later my wife left her phone and I saw a text from a female she had never told me about amongst her friends, so I opened the text only to discover it’s actually a guy and she’s also been talking to other guys. They communicated and video chatted at times when I’m at work.
That really hurt me and when I confronted her, she said it was nothing and it was only revenge for what I did that she never forgave me. It hurt me real bad but I know for every action, there’s a reaction, so I took it that it’s 50/50 now we are even if that’s what she needs to do to truly forgive me, I’d take it.

She said she blocked them and she don’t need those chats no more. This was in August 2022. We moved pass that. Now just yesterday, my instinct told me to check her phone because she’s changed her password on two occasions without telling me, and when I did, I found she’s still texting the dudes telling one of the she misses him so much. This was just last month. When I confronted her again, she denied it and she had deleted the text off her phone but I had taken screenshots and sent to myself, when I showed it to her, then she said she dosnt know why she’s chatting them up…

She still says their numbers are blocked but u are clearly chatting with them, till now she says she don’t know y she did it. I asked her if there’s anything I’m doing wrong or not doing enough. She said no.

What would you advise cos I’m honestly confused. I really love my wife but she’s upset cos I went through her phone and she’s threatening to leave.